This trend started in London when I had no choice to venture out and seek subsistence on my own in a restaurant unless I wanted to brave a cold Gregg’s or feel completely unfabulous munching on a takeaway in my hotel room. I mean, I was making the effort to travel to a different city, why waste my time there by not enjoying myself? As I entered my chosen venue in London and asked the staff member greeting me for a table for one I did feel a bit uncomfortable but my shyness was soon put aside once I was seated and handed a menu. Apart from the lack of someone else sitting across from me, this was a completely normal activity that I’d indulged in countless times before.
Bored, lonely or feeling awkward? I had no time for these as I quickly popped my Mum a call to catch up rather than sit there feeling like a loner surrounded by scores of people chattering and laughing away together. In fact, by the time I’d finished my meal I didn’t feel too bad at all, fair enough I’d spent a lot of time messing around on Facebook and Twitter but I didn’t want to hurry back under the covers of the bed in my room and hide from shame.
Okay, so you’re probably thinking ‘so this girl went out for a meal on her own, what’s the big deal?’.
Let me break it down for you: I was in a relationship with someone for over five years and for two of those we lived together. Before and during that time I never had the opportunity to go out by myself for a meal, to grab a coffee or even just out for a walk. In my life so far I’ve pretty much always had someone to go out and do something with, wether that be a friend or partner. Unfortunately, when you find yourself single after such a long time you have to accept that there will be a large chunk of your time now free to spend with yourself, and yourself only – even if you’re surrounded by good friends.
So I’ve been trying something new. Once a week when I have a day off of work I treat myself to some time out of the house by myself catching lunch, reading a book in a cafe or shopping all on my own. This is perhaps my fifth or sixth week doing such and it’s actually really helped me to wind down. I work near enough full time so having a day where the morning starts with a lie in and ends with a pamper session of lotion and potions helps me to feel better in myself during the working week. Especially when in the middle of all such a day I’ve gotten dressed, gone out and had a nice meal just for me.
So I don’t have someone to curl up with on those cold winter nights anymore, who cares! I get to have pudding all to myself now instead.
Have you ever ventured out by yourself to a restaurant or cafe on your own? How have you found the experience?